"All I do should be based on a perfect oneness with Him, not on a self-willed determination to be godly. This will mean that others may use me, go around me, or completely ignore me, but if I will submit to it for His sake, I will prevent Jesus Christ from being persecuted."
This quote is hard for most of us, especially in a culture that promotes self-care. It's not until we offer up our own lives as a sacrifice that we find ourselves in a position for healing. There are a ton of amazing books that promote self-care and a path leading to freedom, but without the mindset that we're on this journey for others, or for something greater, we will struggle to find ourselves healed, permanently transformed.
We all enter adulthood with wounds, often paralyzing wounds. The phrase ‘I am’ is so powerful, especially when used in a way to describe who we are in relation to what we've experienced. Choosing to use "I was" in place of "I am" for the moments and seasons that we need healing from is powerful. For example, "I was abused, but today, I am loved and I am healed".
Our attempts to self-care with trips to the spa, solo walks on the beach, and full glasses of wine won't do much for our long term restoration if we're not considering the way in which we process and discuss our past.
“Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test what God’s will is: his good, pleasing and perfect will.” – Romans 12:2 NIV
Healing is a lifelong journey, layer by layer. When we're given time to self-care, alone time to do those things that we love, it's important to seek our renewal, with desperation.
"A pauper does not ask out of any reason other than the completely hopeless and painful condition of his poverty. He is not ashamed to beg— blessed are the paupers in spirit (Matthew 5:3)." Oswald Chambers
Whether your self-care protocol is to work in your garden, visit Easyukulelesongs.com for new songs to learn, or ride horseback along the foothills, focus less on the "healing" and more the "serving". How does your self-care bring your closer to God, how does it renew your mind and better prepare you for time spent with your loved ones?
*This is a collaborative post.