Not all of our children have the verbal ability to express how they what their bedrooms designed, but when we slow down and observe, they show us.
A child's bedroom is a safe place where their creativity can flow, where they have freedom to play and equally find rest. Their bedroom will evolve and change over the years, and they desire to be part of this process.
Observe Their Play
Begin involving your little ones in the decorating process by observing how they play in their rooms: where do they play, what do they play with, what matters most to them about the space, what do they need?
Lately Ester has really enjoyed playing with her stuffed animals and her dolls on the couch in our bedroom. This couch will be part of our basement living room one day, but why not place it in Ester's room until that time comes? We are a co-sleeping family and she doesn't have a bed in her room right now, which leaves space for the green couch. We hope to share some photos of her updated bedroom soon, she is loving it!
We asked Ester if she wanted the green couch in her room, and she eagerly helped me push it down the hallway. Once it was in her room, she grabbed a few books and wanted to snuggle and read together. When Ester is older we will ask about the colors she likes, the designs she likes, the furniture she needs/wants, and the detail elements like twinkle lights or rugs. Maybe your child wants a desk to draw at, or a shelf to arrange her rock collection.
Asking questions and giving our children the chance to respond is a beautiful way to encourage critical thinking and decision making.
Give them time to think and dream, especially if they are older. If they're not sure you can always offer a few suggestions; maybe they'd love a new lamp, or a space to read near the window. For some children, maybe they want everything to stay the same, and that's okay too.
Let Them Choose
Maybe they are wanting a treehouse bed, or one of those exciting three-tiered beds that they can share with their siblings. If purchasing something new is not in the budget, or perhaps their desire is intensely bizarre (like paining their room chartreuse, which might be really pretty), together you can think of ways to make something similar, using what you already have (hanging drawings of chartreuse colored flowers).